|Sweet Baby Spencer-16 Days Old|
You are right in the fact that I seriously don't look like I gave birth three short weeks ago. It's almost nauseating how disgustingly fast my body bounced back into shape. I did work really hard at staying very active and healthy throughout the pregnancy though. Do you also remember how sick I was in the first trimester and how I couldn't eat anything sweet throughout the pregnancy? That still remains a problem. I'm guessing that played a big factor in it as well. I bounced back fast after the birth of our three kids but it was even more quickly after Spencer's birth. I told you from the start...I WAS MEANT TO HAVE BABIES! I must take after my Grandma Boom who had 14 kids in 14 years. I could totally do that if I only kept the three that we already have, except my husband probably wouldn't stick around! I'll be lucky enough to carry one more time and that's probably all my body should really endure.
|This Certificate should go to Spencer. If it weren't for him and our "blow up the belly" photos then my hair would have never been long enough to donate.|
I'm blown away by the kindness people have shown throughout this journey and after the birth. We're still getting mail that's flooding our mailbox, email inbox, and facebook messages. I know I wrote about it before, but it's truly appreciated that you're expressing how this has impacted your lives in such amazing ways. I didn't realize that it would go beyond our family, my IPs, and their families. I'm realizing that it has touched so many people in ways that I never would have guessed. I feel so blessed to read about the impact it's had on your life. Thank you for sharing and thank you for your love and support!
The transition from being pregnant and having daily contact with my IPs to the amount of contact now that Spencer is here will change and evolve. I'm not sure what it will eventually look like, other than I'm sure we'll be friends forever and feel a lot like extended family, but after the birth I have had daily contact from one of them or the other until yesterday. I'm sure that's why it was so easy my emotional well being, plus they were really excited and happy that I could come down and visit a couple times. I keep thinking that the daily contact will eventually find a new normal and we'll settle into what is right for us all. The only person, other than my husband, that I talk to everyday is my sister. It would feel weird if I didn't talk to her every single day, she's my best friend (speaking of her...she's calling right now)! Last night when I went to bed I realized that I didn't get a new picture, a phone call, text, or email from either of my IPs. It's okay that the separation is happening. All of us have been so very respectful of each other and so open in terms of boundaries. I'm glad it has been a slow process and it will continue to level out and just become normal. I'm just so happy that we have had this perfect match!
|Visiting Spencer-16 Days Old|
I've gotten a couple letters in the mail, one for Spencer's birth certificate information, and the other was the county sending Ben and I a congratulations note on the birth of our son, Spencer. We really need to get these laws passed so that these things don't get sent. I really didn't react to them except with a good chuckle. It's strange getting "new mother" info when the baby doesn't live here and he's not mine! I also had to do some research because Ben's information was on Spencer's birth certificate information notice. It actually shouldn't have his info on it, so our agency went to work along with my IPs to get that changed. I guess there was a new person at the hospital that made a mistake on the form. We knew I'd end up as the "mother" until we go to court and have everything finalized. It's strange how the law works. Even having Spencer and my IPs banded with my name at the hospital seems weird.
|Letter sent in the mail to congratulate Ben and I on the birth of our son|
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